For centuries Women have been dominated by the opposite gender. Do you know why? Mostly it is because of Sexual Dimorphism. It is a condition where two sexes of the same species exhibit different characteristics. And it is not just the sexual organs! Women have smaller muscles. Hence less strength. The only job of female was to choose. It still happens with most of the animals. She chooses the stronger of two males. The males fight for her because she is the one who will be responsible for giving birth. That was the only job given to women. Men assumed superiority over women and maintained it through domination.
The vision of equality between the sexes helps only in few areas, right to vote, right to speech, right to education, and so on. But that doesn’t help a women protect herself from physical abuse. A man(not a porn star) can stand half naked, or almost naked, surrounded by women and would love it. Can a woman feel the same? We fear being touched by strangers. Women have been taught that it is wrong if a stranger touches you. In some countries male child is also taught the same. But do we teach this to our son? They never understand the concept of being “abused” or “exploited”.
Research has shown that being a female is the single largest factor for being a victim of abuse in heterosexual relationship. And this is because of male dominance and woman’s lower status in our society. Now the question comes: why don’t they leave. Most researches show that when a women tries to leave or asks for help from their relatives, they are asked to adjust. The lack of accessible affordable housing, inadequate income support, legal aid, and day care prevent a woman from having the resources to live free from abuse. Why don’t they work for adequate income?The average gender pay gap is approximately 54% in India. This data too is for those women who work. Most women are not allowed to work. Much of the reason they don’t work appears to lie in the persistence of India’s traditional gender norms, which seek to ensure “purity” of women by protecting them from men other than their husbands and restrict mobility outside their homes. This has been the culture and women grow watching this and they think that this is OK.
A male child is always allowed everything. His sister MUST follow all the rules and regulations to represent the family. I am the only child brought up in a Bengali family. Most families in other parts of the country don’t like Bengali women. The reason is that they are out spoken. They have the freedom to talk boldly, to eat boldly. Growing in Delhi, I observed, most of my female friends did not eat non veg as they belonged to a non vegetarian family, but their brothers were just scolded if they had non veg. The males can drink openly. If a women does that, she is a whore, a slut, or not a marriage material. That was the concept. Now a days I see a change, but still people define purity in women who are away from all the bad habits.
A man prefers a women who hasn’t lost her virginity. She is considered pure. The fear is so much that women actually keep saving themselves for their husband. If they like a guy, or want to make out, they can’t have sex. They will do everything but sex. A girl getting pregnant before marriage is a crime in Indian society. Is making love crime? Why? This is the society that has made the women weak. There are a very few cases in India where a single mother has given birth to her child without getting married. Neena Gupta was way ahead of her times when she took the bold decision to go ahead with her pregnancy with one of the world’s finest cricketers, Vivian Richards. But our Indian society and tradition made it possible for no man to accept her when she was young.
“Why do you think your wife should listen to you?” “Because a woman must listen to her husband”. “But why should a woman listen to her husband”?“Because the man is the master of the house.” Men don’t honor their wife. This has been the scene throughout. Our grandmothers saw the same and taught their children the same. Women have always been treated as an object. They have become accustomed to being treated like that. They don’t even feel that it is wrong.
We are called Feminist because we are strong enough to challenge the society, the culture and the traditions. Most men and women can’t accept that GOD did not write the traditions and cultures. A human did. And we follow shastras and vedas that too are written by males. We don’t need equality, but equity. I proudly call myself a FEMINIST.