Rape: Sex or Violence?

symbol_t180Rape is a heinous crime. No theory explains the motivation for rape. The motives of rapists can be anger, power, sadism, sexual gratification in tandem. It is said that rapists are angry at women and motivated by a desire to dominate and control them. Gang rape is often perceived by male perpetrators as a justified method to discourage or punish what they consider as immoral behavior among women. In some areas in Papua New Guinea, women can actually be punished by public gang rape usually through permission by elders. And then people get angry when we talk about Feminism(https://workeatpraylove.com/2016/11/04/yeswe-are-feminist/).

Rape survivors may have long term generalized anxiety disorder, may develop phobias, major depressive disorder, may experience difficulties with resuming their social life, and with sexual functioning. They are sometimes blamed and considered responsible for the crime. This leads to multiple suicides because of lack of support from family and friends. They blame the girl for bringing shame to the family. It is not seen that being a women with lower strength as compared to the man, she couldn’t have stopped what was coming. In certain places, the victim is forced to marry the rapist. For people, the sex is what matters. They see it as sex between 2 people, and not as violence. The stress that a girl goes through after such act. The injuries she is left with. In ancient history, rape was viewed less as a type of assault on the female, than a serious property crime against the man to whom she belonged, typically the father or husband. And AGAIN, people get angry when we talk about Feminism(https://workeatpraylove.com/2016/11/04/yeswe-are-feminist/). I don’t know when men will think twice before treating women as object.

Many people came up with solutions to the problem. They said women should learn self defense. They said women should keep a cutter or pepper spray with them. Really? Do we need a solution here or to take action and stop the chances of occurring it? Before traffic light was invented, there were multiple accidents. They found a solution and came up with traffic police, followed by traffic light. They did not give a solution of not to use cars. It looks like people are not even interested in taking an action against the rapist.

The story of rape survivors after the the incident worsens. In order to prove that she was raped, a detailed check up is done, which involves diagnosing the inside of ones’ vagina. The police, who are reported about the incident, most of the times refer the victim to a male doctor. The rule says that the doctor should be accompanied by a female doctor, but the checking is done by a male. A girl who has been abused by a man, is again thrown in front of a male stranger. Even during the trials, she is asked personal questions. All this leads to more and more depression. There are so many instances in which after rape,a girl is killed by her relatives, which is called honor killing.

I don’t know what is with the people. During the Nirbhaya rape case, there were strikes, arrests, protests, and so on. But when the girl’s friend, who was with her during the time of the incident, first gave his statement, he said that when they were lying naked on road in Delhi’s chilling winter, none of the cars stopped to help them. Not even a single person came to at least cover them. Hours later help came. Some stupid people also said that it was the girl’s fault that she was roaming around with her male partner in night. I think people live just to eat, earn and empathize.

People should stop the drama of caring and the government should do something about the issue. No one is affected in the incident except for the victim. Either they sympathize or empathize or blame. Only and only government has the power to take some action. Only they can make rules to curb the problem, to simplify the procedure. But the government only works when it needs vote. I fear being a women in a society where a boy is treated like the king of the family and not taught MANNERS.

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